Nov 13, 2018
We all have that inner critic
who wants us to believe “I can’t.” As a manager, you may also see
that voice taking control of your team mates. So how do you quiet
the inner critic and unleash the full potential of yourself and
This week I speak with Tara
Mohr, expert on women’s
leadership and well-being. Tara is the author of Playing Big:
Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and
Lead. Tara and I talk about
different forms of fear, that annoying inner critic that holds us
back, and how to respond to someone else’s inner critic when it’s
holding them back.
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- Playing big is not about striving more or
working harder. It’s about getting in touch with and taking action
on your own hopes and dreams.
are different kinds of fear. The first type 'pachad' is projecting
the worst case scenario. This is the irrational fear that holds us
back. The second type 'yirah' is the feeling of taking on more
responsibility, getting an influx of energy, or being in the
presence of the sacred. This is the fear that tells us we're on the
- If you don't address your inner
critic, it will sabotage you time and again.
- The inner critic works almost
identically in all of us. When you do something that feels
emotionally risky, the inner critic speaks up, trying to get us to
retreat to emotional safety.
- Ask yourself, "What is the emotional
risk I'm taking - failure, rejection, incompetence, uncertainty,
etc." Once you've identified it, you can acknowledge it, have
compassion for yourself, and decide to act from the part of you
that wants to fulfill your dreams.
- Especially as women, if you do
substantive work, it will be met with praise and criticism. When
you get praise or criticism, what comes up for you?
- As managers, we get an up close view
of our colleagues' inner critic. We often make the mistake of
thinking our encouragement or confidence will make someone's inner
critic will go away. But it actually can make someone more
- Have a conversation with your team
about the inner critic. https://www.taramohr.com/quieting-the-inner-critic/
- Being your authentic self, and
sharing creative or innovative ideas often comes with self
- Confidence doesn't come with more
experience when we are continuing to grow, take on more
responsibility, and work at our learning edge.
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